Back home in Chicago, safe and sound, after a long day of driving. Ten hours in the car, decompressing and leaving the “bubble” of Southplains Leather Fest and the International Master/slave contest.
We travel a lot in the car, as we go to events or travel up north to our getaway. We’ve come to really treasure the time in the car together. Master Sindarian calls it “windshield time” and we’ve adopted that phrase ourselves. It’s a perfect description of having that intimate time together, just the two of us, to talk. We don’t have distractions, except for the other crazy drivers on the road. Usually we’re in the car multiple hours, so if we need time to be quiet and chew on things, we have it. The conversation may wander, but we have that time to really explore things, to be able to see each other, feel each other. That is so valuable.
And we have been doing a lot of talking over the years – as we develop classes, as we’ve prepared for our state, regional and International contests, as we’ve talked about experiences and friends and classes attended, or runs enjoyed, or even that hot scene we just saw at the dungeon and how can we make it even more kinky.
Master/slave relationships, in our experience and in our observation, require the kind of communication that is open, honest and constant. When the conversations stop, it’s usually an ebb we’re in, and we use the windshield time to rediscover that space, so that we can talk and reconnect.
So now we’re home and feeling very exhausted and exhilarated… and a ton of windshield time. We have new class ideas, we’ve talked about our trip to the UK and regional contests, we want to do something with the Chicago MAsT chapters for International Mr. Leather this year, how amazing it was at SPLF, our thoughts on how it went.. etc. etc.
But it was wonderful connection time, downshift and reshift time. We love our windshield time.