(We are here at IMsL 2014, and having such a good time that yesterday’s post never made it. So lesson learned – have something ready because the gaps will sneak up on us quicker than we think!)
I mentioned on Friday that the reason we were at IMsL was because I wanted my slave to grow as a person and in her experiences. When we got together, she hadn’t really known a supportive BDSM or leather community. We spent the first couple of years together alone, but in 2007, we started to really come out and get active. It was around this time that I decided to get back involved in the Chicago Leather Club and invited her to start her journey in that community.
It was important to me that she grow and learn her own path, her own journey. While this woman serves me with mind and body, her growth was always on my mind. If I were to depart this world today, right now, what kind of person would she be? Would she have the skills needed to take care of herself? Would she have the community, the support network, the things she needed and the friends around her to help her?
Where does the Universe intend on her to grow? Although she is mine, she also has a purpose that lies in the things that are bigger than ourselves.
As a woman and leatherwoman, I knew that there are things that she should experience and grow into – experiences and places that she needs to go into. As her Master, I can see those and encourage and direct that growth. With that, she’s become a bootblack, held board member positions at a local dungeon/group, been a leather club officer, organized and championed women’s spaces and women’s leather pride in Chicago and now, she’s a titleholder. This woman has grown in ways that I didn’t see exactly, but I knew she was capable of.
A Master/slave relationship is about the edge of who we are, exploring those places in one of the most extreme and involved of relationship dynamics, and yet it’s not just about the whips and chains, although those are nice and hot and fun. The growth of us as people, as deep complex sexy imperfect miracles of perfection… that is what I see in our M/s and how I will make those opportunities available and guide her towards.