It has been a weekend of connections, starting with something new for us, and ending with an old family in a new place.
Slave angie and I live far enough away from Chicago that it can take up to an hour to get to our home in the far north suburbs. We love hosting people, but we don’t do it so often because of where we’re at.
One of the things we’ve been learning is how precious this community of ours is, how rare it is to find people who feel like we do, who see that edge, that passion, that joy in living a life defined by extremes of emotions and actions. MAsT chapters and local groups provide a great resource, but one of the things that I learned as a kinkling was the importance and value of face to face sharing, personal outreach and making connections to like-minded people. As someone with Aspergers, this has not always come easily to me, but the more I do it, the more I see how important it is. These connections were the ones most important to me and still are… and it has dawned on me that now it’s our turn to start initiating those connections, offer our hand in friendship and nurture those that we find who we feel a consonant energy with.
So, Friday night dinner was wonderful with someone in the community who is asking questions, who is looking and learning – lots of laughter, some very tasty wine and good food.
Sunday, slave angie and I had a chance to go down to the new space that our local BDSM social club has found. The LRA Chicago, which used to be the Leather Rose back in the day, lost their space in November, and after a long 6 months, a new space has been found. It’s wonderful! I had a chance to do some work there on Saturday and today, they had an open house. It was really good to see old friends, to laugh and feel like we were back home again. We’ve missed the LRA. It’s been a long, hard road with some of the things that have happened there, and some of the ways it personally affected me, so coming to the new space feels both comforting and exciting. A group of us stopped across the street for a lovely dinner and between the bad puns, laughter and sharing of stories, it just felt wonderful to make new connections and re-establish old ones.
A long time ago, angie and I were looking for other Masters and slaves. “Where are people like us?” we asked. Now we know… they may be many in some places, few in others, but it’s the connections we make, the ones we keep close, the ones we establish and then reconnect when opportunity arises… that is where those people are.