I’m at the end of filling out a questionnaire for Raven Kaldera for a book he is writing on the various “types” of Master/slave relationships. I’m filling it out from a leather perspective. As well, I’m working on the class we’ll be presenting at this year’s Northwest Leather Conference, on “Living Leather and M/s”. Doing both at the same time has been interesting, as it’s forced me/us to look at how we define things, so that we can explain them to others. Not always an easy task!
One of the questions that I’ve answered in both is “What would you tell someone new who is interested in M/s and leather?” So as not to steal all the thunder from Raven’s book and our class, I’ll share the basic jist of the “Four Things” — feel free to ask questions if you want to discuss further. Once Raven’s book comes out, if it hasn’t been covered already, I’ll come back to this and explore the four.
1. Get involved in leather community. Volunteer. Support. Show interest, not replacement.
2. When doing 1), remember to sit down, shut the fuck up and listen. Earn your way.
3. Walk to the beat of your different drummer. Learn your local/regional/club traditions. Honor them, don’t be beholden to them. Use what works. Throw out the rest. Invent your own.
4. Don’t rewrite history. Don’t accept rewritten history. Go out and learn leather history. Then, make your own by living Life.
These are all things that I was taught, and I hope to pass on.