Life with someone with Aspergers or autism can be challenging. Life *as* the person with Aspergers/autism is just as challenging. Especially when the Aspie is super-attuned to emotional states of the NT (Neurotypical) person.
So angie asked me a question tonight that was politely asked, but my radar picked up all the signals of her emotions and as a result of that, my bucket just filled in 0.002 seconds. That led to a difficult discussion.
In the past, this would have gone on for awhile, not gone well, and required a lot of energy to get through.
Tonight, with knowing that there are layers to get through, we got through them pretty quickly, go to the reason for her off-kilter emotions and what was going on. Question answered, issue resolved, a success in terms of learning that some things are just going to happen, no matter what, and we can be fore-warned and fore-armed.
I like to say that sometimes you just have to get through the shitty part, because it doesn’t last forever, the sun comes up and life goes on. We learn and we grow.