What’s the old saying, “When the going gets tough, the tough get going”? Well, the past couple of days have seen some unhappy news come our way.
One of the hardest lessons I’ve had to learn is that I often set the tone of how things are going to go. And by last night, with the final piece of news displayed on my computer, I was just done. Went to bed, tossed and turned and finally got to sleep, without neither of us getting upset. I knew angie was on guard and on watch – my Aspie probably should have overloaded on all this… but like I keep saying, Sun came up this morning, and back to it.
As we got through the day, I kept the tone even, light and hopeful. This too shall pass. We have a ton of skin in the game, and too many rough patches in the past, whether it’s family, job, money, illness, death… all of these we have faced and gotten through. It hasn’t been easy, and early on, all we had was a belief, a faith, that this was worth it. That we would persevere.
And like any rainstorm, it does pass – eventually. Doesn’t mean that the problems go away, but we have plans, we have support and we have a way forward.
It took me going on my survival school to realize that so much of what we face is not as hard as some of more simple, yet more profound battles. Things like depression, illness, death – they are things that many people face daily and end up being simply just being able to put one foot in front of the other. Compared to that, a whole of other things just become less important and ultimately less stressful. Going back to our foundation, our values, helps us to simplify the chaos, and face the more difficult.
“If one is but secure at the foundation, he will not be pained by departure from minor details or affairs that are contrary to expectation. But in the end, the details of a matter are important. The right and wrong of one’s way of doing things are found in trivial matters.”
― Yamamoto Tsunetomo, Hagakure: The Book of the Samurai