For whatever reason, we are both brain-dead and ready to hit the sack at 8:30 in the evening, and both of us looked at each other and said “We just basically made it through the day… zzzZZZzzz…” It was just one of those days of picking ’em up and putting ’em down.
So, a bit of a cheat here, but we wanted to share an interview that we recently had the pleasure of doing with Jaco Lourens, a wonderful (and hot) leatherman from South Africa. He toured the US earlier this year (and stole a LOT of hearts, men and women alike) and we got the chance to meet him at IMsL and then at IML. He’s doing a lot of good things for his community in South Africa and for the leather community world-wide. We were really honored that he asked us to participate in his interviews.
Here’s one of the questions he asked that is relevant specifically to Masters and slaves:
What advice can you give Master & slave couples out there on making it work, in terms of submission, control, pain and pleasure?
Well, my friend, that question could be an entire series of articles, because each one is a discussion in and of itself. So just a few things:
Authority and surrender are a journey, one that doesn’t have an “ultimate level” or a point where you reach the final destination. It is a journey on the edge of relationship dynamics – where people are going to look at you and think “You are way outside the norm” but then, that’s the reason we go there – because we want to be on that edge.
So take it day by day, learn and grow. Don’t be afraid of mistakes, because unless you’ve done harm to yourself or your partner, all mistakes are opportunities to learn and grow.
There is a difference between authority and control. Control over someone else is a limited thing, where authority reaches into all places, but establishes a different dynamic and thought process. Knowing the difference was key for me to vastly improve the M/s dynamic with slave angie.
Our leathersex is the rocket fuel for our M/s. It is not the focus, but it is one of the primary ways we communicate our energy and spirit to each other outside of the service relationship we have.
The full interview can be found here: http://www.theleatherjournal.com/index.php/editorial-opinions/editorial-section-col-180/99-conversations-in-leather/1054-featuring-master-michael-shorten-slave-angie