We have questions to answer! Yay!
From Irish Grrl on Facebook: “How do you handle it when someone disrespects your slave? Do you let her deal with it, or do you do it directly yourself?”
So, usually, I automatically go into this mode:
But that’s usually in my head and I’ve learned to take a step back, take a deep breath and talk it over with my slave, to see what happened, how it happened. There’s an aspect of being an Aspie where I have a very black/white right/wrong switch and it will get flipped when it might not need to be. So I may choose to use her services as a Universal Translator.
There have been times when I’ve let her handle it, especially if it’s between her and another sub/slave. If it’s a Dom/Master, or I decide that I’m going to take it on, then I deal with it. I do let her know what’s going on. These come up really rarely though. The one time that still pisses me off is when she was shoved around in Touché when she was bootblacking. Someone didn’t like a femme bootblack. It’s probably a good thing I wasn’t there… I’m a bear in more than one way.
slave angie adds : So there are times it’s cute in that “Awe he loves me” way, and then there is the case of Master liking to wrap His slave in bubble wrap. Lots and lots of bubble wrap. We occasionally make the joke of me being the Christmas Story kid that says “I can’t put my arms down!!” with the new Christmas jacket. Yup it’s like that. But in all seriousness, we seem to balance each other in the way of resolution with Him straight to the point and my let’s think about it a bit approach.
Our next question comes from a search done that led the searcher to our blog: in master slave relationship is slave shared
Some of the search terms that find our blog are interesting, and this was one of them. It’s a hot fantasy and one that is commonly voiced. Is it commonly acted on? There are a lot of pictures of that sort of thing on KinkyNet and the web, so I guess it probably does happen more than one might support.
For us, it depends on what you mean by “shared.” We have played with other couples or other people in the past where partners were traded or we interacted with each other. I’ve let angie go to women’s parties or have situations with others where she was with people that we’ve all negotiated with. I’m pretty careful with my slave and have my own boundaries and comfort levels. I believe in the “many” vs. “one” in terms of experiences and growth, but that’s not at the expense of where it’s healthy vs. not healthy.
The final question comes from one of the MAsT meetings that we’ve attended. It was such a good question, and I was very proud of slave angie’s answer. The question was Is there ever a time when all of this is not worth it? That the struggle is not worth it? The answer though, I’m going to leave to angie to write about in October, because she has some things to say about that. So stay tuned…
Thank you for your questions (and fun searches) for September!