As I mentioned on Friday, we’ve hit a glitch where I’m struggling with priorities and being able to clearly state the vision and priorities. Nobody is perfect – even us Masters sometimes hit places where we have to go back to what is core, what is at the center and work our way outwards. I have no doubt this is partially in reaction to all the travel and stress from the title year, as well it could be simply “that time” that sometimes we hit when we’ve reached a point and now we’re ready for the next mountain to climb. Certainly being awarded the International M/s title and then the traveling and representing and sharing represents the peak of this mountain of titleholding we’ve been climbing.
So going back to core means stripping everything down to what is truly important to me. Asking questions like “What is important? OK, so having the house chores done is important. Why? Why is that important? So us keeping up on our doctors’ visits is important. Why? So angie and I keeping active in MAsT is important. Why?” … and so on.
I’ve found that writing these down on paper does something — it causes me to really focus and the words start flying out of the pen. At the end of all this, I established that are three important core things that I truly care about, in no particular order:
1. The health (physical, emotional, mental, spiritual) of the people I am responsible for, and myself.
2. That the people I’m responsible for, and myself, lead authentic, fulfilling lives.
3. That the people I’m responsible for, and myself, have as harmonious and safe a home as possible.
So where do I go with this? I listed next the people and things I am responsible for.
And by responsible, I mean that I am either in some form of leadership or caretaking for, or the commitments I’ve made.
Then, I listed my values, again in no particular order:
Authenticity, Open-mindedness, Integrity, Kindness, Accountability.
After that, I listed out “What do I expect myself to do with my life?” After I got done listing them, I looked and saw that they reflected my values and what’s important to me.
It was interesting that after doing all this, I felt a sense of grounding like I haven’t felt in a long time. I shared this with slave angie. She’s going to do something similar this week, and hopefully next week, we can come together and look at what we’ve written and go from there.
I believe that the things we do with our lives should follow our core important goals, our values and what we want to do with our lives. Sometimes we get lost in the minutia of life and forget that we’re capable of far more bigger things.
More to come…