So our living room remodeling has progressed to the painting part. We’ve… well, I’ve patched up the broken plaster, sanded, wiped and now started priming the darker paint for the lighter colors. I’ve only done about a third of the room and it already looks very different.
Since we were talking about Ebbs and Flows yesterday, I got to thinking about when things go quiet or it seems like incompatibilities have crept in. Those times are good opportunities to go back to the basics, go back to the core and see if what you’re doing still works. Maybe it only needs a fresh coat of paint, to freshen things up, to make them relevant to how your dynamic has progressed, or maybe you need patching, even perhaps stripping away the old baggage and old ways and going back to the bedrock of your foundation.
Rituals, protocols, rules… they all are both the trappings and the girders that hold our houses together and decorate them. If they are not relevant, if they don’t serve the same purpose, if they don’t feed your soul… it might be time to look at them, see why you have them, why did you start them, why don’t they work? Do they still fit you and your dynamic?
We all change and grow. We evolve and learn new things. What helped us get over a hurdle or through an initial period of time may not be needed. And that’s OK. Honor your past and traditions, honor the things that spoke to you, but don’t be beholden to them. This is a journey, and we don’t always keep carrying the same things that we started with.
Tomorrow, I’ll get more drop cloth, and get to the rest of the walls and prime them. By the time this weekend is over, we hope to have the painting all done, and we can start hanging artwork and remaking the living room into a room that is useful to us again, and looks good and makes us happy.