When we’re starting out on the path of Mastery, it can feel overwhelming to contemplate what exactly that means. I remember thinking about how amazing my mentors were, and how completely inept and newbie-like I was. Talk about feeling like the proverbial “plastic flogger male het dominant.” It took me a long time to feel like I could contemplate walking this path in a safe way both for me and whoever might want to be in service to me.
Some are lucky to have access to wonderful mentors and a supportive community, but many who hear about M/s (either from erotica or that wonderful online service FetLife *cough*) don’t — and that’s what this post is about — sharing knowledge to those who might not have options.
I suppose this whole blog counts as my sharing of knowledge and experience. That’s what I meant it for. I also like sharing bits and wisdom where I find it, which leads us to Master Stephen.
Master Stephen hails from Indiana and is the Great Lakes Master 2005 titleholder. He’s a wonderful educator, a whip-smart man and also shares a love of geekery – anyone who can follow my obsession with the original version of Dungeons & Dragons as written in 1974 deserves that label.
Master Stephen has written a wonderful post on Fetlife called “Collected Bits of Learned Mistakes re: Mastery” – but as he puts it: “…although it’s usually called “Wisdom”. But as the most efficient path to wisdom comes from mistakes, I’ll just call it as it is. ;-)”
Master Stephen explains – “… I do distinguish between “dominance” and “mastery”. For the purposes of this post, please think of “Dominance” as about forcing your will on someone else (<— i.e. “play-time”), and “Mastery” as taking responsibility for a submissive’s decisions, well-being, attitude, etc. You can practice both simultaneously, but they are far, FAR, from the same thing. This post is much more geared towards Mastery. Please take any advice you see in that light.”
This is one of those posts that I have revisited a time or two in the past couple of months, musing about bits like the above. If you are called to the path of Mastery, I highly encourage you to read it. And share it.