[M/s 365] An upset


“Upsets” is the term that Dr. Robert Rubel uses in his M/s books to describe when things go awry. Well, last night was definitely an upset. It has been a very stressful few days with final travel preparations, then the blizzard, then cabin fever, then the OMG-only-2-days-left panic (with the requisite “all the work while crying“)…

Well, slave Angie got the car stuck in the snow-plow-hump at the end of the driveway. We hadn’t had a chance to clear it off again. I was downstairs where I can’t hear anything over the dryer and washer.

I come back upstairs, with a panicked slave opening the door. I don’t remember the exact sequence of things, but stress and anxiety and cabin fever just all boiled over and we had a breakdown moment – both of us yelling at each other. We both backed up a bit. I stormed out, helped to push her out of the mound, cleared it away… (much in this fashion) and went back in.

About an hour passed before slave Angie returned, giving us both time to reflect on the loss of control and protocol. When she came in, we hugged and gained a little closure. Later that night, I put her on her knees in front of me, we did our ritual and we both closed it for good. A glitch, to be left in the past. We are not perfect, but we strive to always get better.

It can happen that fast, and without warning, when those “upsets” come. Not always, sometimes we can feel it brewing and can do things to get ourselves into better frames of mind, but sometimes it hits like a pop-up storm. Re-center, forgive, put it in the past, learn, move on. The Sun always comes up the next day and it’s another opportunity to make it a great day.

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Master Michael S

International Master 2014. Member of: Chicago Leather Club, Chicago Leathermen Group, MAsT: Greater Chicago. Longtime leatherman. One of the Four Horsemen.

4 thoughts on “[M/s 365] An upset”

  1. I actually SUPER like this one. The reality of the every-day-ness of life simply is what it is. Thank you for sharing this particular snippet which serves to remind us all that we are not perfect, “all-done,” in-control-all-the-time people. This is part of the human experience, whether you are a master a slave or plain, ole vanilla. The question always is, how do we move on from our “upsets?” You offer a wonderful coping mechanism. We must find our own ways, whether through ritual or plain talk or something else, to forgive and move on.


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