[M/s 365] Welcome to Chicago!

It’s IML / Shibaricon weekend in Chicago, where high cow and tons of rope are the order of the day.

This is the 3rd? 4th? year that Angie has helped in organizing/shepherding the IML Bootblack Luncheon/Fieldtrip (aka BBChaosSpendingFrenzy). We have been volunteering at the LA&M for a few years as well. Tonight was fun in being ushers at the IML Roast. Remind me to never get roasted by Thib Guicherd-Callin or Nick Elliot because… damn. Those men can skewer people faster than a fencing competition.

It’s been fun to welcome people to our city as “ambassadors” now, but it’s still about the same amount of work, and cleaning up, and the organizing and all that… but seeing the smiles and enjoyment and reunions and hookups and cruising… makes it all worth it.

Off to bed for us… IML awaits tomorrow.

[M/s 365] IML – Here we go again !


IML weekend in Chicago has always been a huge weekend for Master and myself. This is the 11th year since we have been together for it and have only missed one to ehh hhm “stay in” the entire weekend, Anyway … IML will always hold a special place in my heart.

The Thursday prior has become a very special day for myself. Riley holds a bootblacks field trip and luncheon for which i’ve sorta signed on as a helper and chauffeur to the chaos. If there is any time i feel entirely at home, this day is one of them, I really look forward to this all year long. My only meh is that this year i have been short of time with duties to put in the extras i had wanted to, but that’s ok.




[M/s 365] Single thoughts for today…

Master: If it were possible to be anymore connected to another human being, like I am with my slave, we would be co-joined. And yet, I can correct her, lift her up, give her a kick in the ass, or hold her close to my chest… because of who we are.

slave:  i missed Master very much throughout the day, the IM from him saying “want to meet me at lunch” was perfect timing.

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[M/s 365] Post-NWLC Drop


Back home from Northwest Leather Conference (NWLC). We almost missed our flight due to mistranslation between Central time and Pacific time. Our 3:50 flight really took off at 1:50. Fortunately, my attention to detail OCD about making sure I don’t miss flights revealed the error and off we dashed to the airport. We made it and enjoyed an upgrade to Economy Plus. The second leg of our trip was hellish, in the cattle car seats, jam-packed and a full flight. Finally to bed at 1:30am after a weekend of not sleeping and then back up at 7:30am for work and more dealing with the aftermath of our basement flooding.

Then comes event drop – where we miss being with our friends and M/s, leather families and on top of that, just general crabbiness…

I will give my slave a lot of props for putting up with the crabby Master today. I’m sure service to me was not easy. I never promised an easy road, but she sticks true to her word and serves me well.

The good parts will come as we catch up on sleep… except just in time for IML (International Mr Leather) to hit Chicago. The weekend whirlwind begins again.

*sigh* I didn’t want sleep.

[M/s 365] Our 4 “How Do I” of M/s and leather

While we’re talking about “How do I…” type questions, another question we get asked is “How do I find leather” or “How do I become leather” or even “How can you make leather work in M/s”?

It’s a hard question to answer for two reasons. The first is that I firmly believe that each person’s journey in life is unique, and finding/becoming leather is going to be unique. Just like spiritual beliefs, there is no “one size fits all” and there are no “Ye Olde Guarde” rules/regulations that you have to follow 1-2-3 to get a piece of “earned leather” and BING you’re leather. At the end of it all, each person’s definition is going to be different. Our’s is different than many others in the straight community, and that’s OK. It’s a reflection of the journey of  how we learned our own way. The second reason is that just as leather is unique, an M/s relationship is unique. There may be common starting points (do you participate in a relationship based on authority transfer, for example), but it’s a unique chemical combination.

At NWLC this weekend, slave angie and I taught a class about our leather influences and archetypes, what had made us leather, and we had a lot of discussion from the class of their archetypes and influences. At the end of the class, I put up one slide of the points that we both had taken in our journey, together, as a Master/slave, to live leather. I wanted to share those here, now that we’ve given the class.

  1. Get involved in leather community. Volunteer. Support. Show interest in the community, not entitlement/replacement. You are there to be a part of the leather community, and that takes time.
  2. When doing #1 – remember to sit down, shut the fuck up and listen. Earn your way. You are no owed a seat at the table. You are welcome, but through your actions.
  3. Walk to the beat of your different drummer. Learn your local/regional/club traditions. Honor them, don’t be beholden to them. Use what works. Throw out the rest. Invent your own.
  4. Don’t rewrite history. Don’t accept rewritten history. Go out and learn leather history. Then, make your own by living Life.