Check your assumptions about the slave or submissive you’re talking to

Oh look, a stump or soap box. Let me get on it for a minute…

This weekend, I saw a wonderful man Robbie Butler step up to the mic and say “Yes, I am a slave and yes, I can run for American Leather Man.”

I’ve seen slave Angie push against similar projections and assumptions … that slaves cannot stand up and be leaders. Especially in leadership positions where people think it only applies to Sirs, to Masters/Mistresses, to Dominants.

It’s a false assumption. I’ve seen strong, caring, wonderful slaves across the world take up leadership positions and “get shit done.”

Too often, I think we as a community shoot ourselves in the foot with these assumptions that a **RELATIONSHIP** role somehow applies across the community.

Respect of that role is one thing. I respect someone as a slave or collared boy/girl or submissive in respect of their relationship role. BUT then, I don’t assume that because they have given control or surrendered authority that they somehow make that the ONLY thing about them.

Next time you walk into a bar, dungeon, play event — check yourself as you talk to someone with a collar or obvious sign of a relationship status. Do you treat them different, make different assumptions? Yes? Then mentally take that collar off them and see them as the wonderful person that they are, fully capable of that leadership position that our community needs filled.

[M/s 365] The year is over!

A little over a year ago [1], we started a project to blog daily about our lives as a Master and slave, as well as our lives as the International Master/slave titleholders.

Today, that project and that year is over. Last night, a new couple was named International Master/slave 2015 and we have stepped aside. Tired, luggage duct-taped, wallet a little (a LOT) lighter, but we are so much richer for the experience.

We wanted to show the good, the bad, the ugly and the amazing in our dynamic and our year. It’s been a crazy, whirlwind year. We learned a lot about each other and the small, wonderful M/s community around us. In a few days, I’ll hopefully be able to post the video of our step-aside speech, depending on how it turned out.

I don’t know what our future project for this blog will be, but it will not be ending! We’re not going anywhere. Although we never got much traction on our “ask us anything” posts (are we that scary? 😀 ), we did hear from people that you do read us and you do like our posts. Thank you for sharing that, and for sharing our year with us. We’re thinking about doing some video blogs going forward, as that would be a medium that slave Angie would be good at, I think. I’ll continue to write, although without the pressure of trying to do something daily. THAT will be a relief!

Thank you. Thank you for your comments, for your words and just for reading and being here.

[1] According to the Internets, it has been 1 year and 6 days, or 371 days. 🙂

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[M/s 365] A cruel Master with a sense of humor…

I posted this to Facebook earlier today, but wanted to share it here… because us Masters really do have a sense of humor. [1]

A conversation I just had with slave Angie:

Me (reading Google weather): “Right now, it’s negative 13. Today, the high is 1. Tomorrow, the high is negative 6, Thurs, the high is negative 10…”

Angie: (eyes widen and she shivers)

Me: “Oh… wait, let me change that to Fahrenheit…”

We are definitely looking forward to Spring, and now I think slave Angie is looking forward to it just a bit more…

[1] Sick and twisted, or cruel, as it may be…

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[M/s 365] A moment of perfection

“Present.” I told Angie last night, as we prepared for bed. She did so.

I ran my hands down her body, watched her face as she slipped into that place.

So did I.

Moment of perfection, of connection. That’s why, despite that folks talk about how much hard work M/s is, or have their own projections of M/s, these moments of connection, of when I feel the surrender, when I can almost taste it on the electricity of the air and connection between us – that is why I do this. Because this is where I want to be.

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[M/s 365] The Road Ahead


Regarding yesterday’s quote…

I have been giving a lot of thought to what we want to do when our title year is over. I’m not one to stay at rest long, unless it is my holiday hibernation. Always into something. I think I am intimidated about coming back to the Great Lakes region and getting involved in helping to support and grow the Power Dynamic community. Community building is hard and vulnerable and it definitely pushes me outside of my comfort zone.

And, I think I am getting over my reluctance to open up and allow myself to feel power dynamic energy with more than just one person at a time in my life. Primarily in allowing people to be of service to me or us when asked. This has been a difficult thing in the past – and I understand now the “why” – my Aspie. This past year, I’ve come to begin to embrace it and understand it, how it might work.

When I spoke with slave Angie about her fears, she spoke more about her own personal fear of the sudden drop of activity and possible boredom. I get that. That’s why we’re making plans to still be active and traveling, as well as staying involved in our local and regional community. And hopefully travel a bit around the country and world. We have South Africa’s leather community to visit, going back to the UK, visiting Ireland and Canada, and hopefully Hawaii.